1. TKT
    April 9, 2018 @ 10:02 pm

    This is wonderful. I’ve thought about this MANY times. I can’t wait for the next post.


  2. Kavitha
    April 9, 2018 @ 11:00 pm

    Thanks so much, TKT!


  3. Lynda Terry
    April 24, 2018 @ 6:09 pm

    SO grateful that I happened upon this particular blog post just now, after clicking on another of your post links that was in my Facebook news feed! As a woman who has spent nearly two decades collaborating with women in the areas of women’s spirituality, the Sacred Feminine and peace, the topic of why there has never been a “major” religion or spiritual path founded by a woman often comes up. But this is the first time I’ve encountered the “gender identity matrix” perspective or seen some of my own questions raised around this issue. I’m definitely eager to see where you take this conversation next ….


    • Kavitha
      April 24, 2018 @ 11:42 pm

      Thank you, Lynda! I think we as a community of women steeped in practice and inquiry can forge new pathways for our sisters. This forging will require us to discard the identity matrix that we’ve innocently taken on or have been forced to acquire. I’ll post more soon, and would love to have you be part of this ongoing conversation. Much love. <3


  4. Varalakshmi Niranjan
    May 2, 2018 @ 4:21 pm

    Thank you for the wonderful article. This brings the question in my mind who is responsible for this ‘gender identity matrix’? It is easy to blame the the society and religion. But ultimately it is us .. it is me who define my gender identity. Recently when I was reading about Meera bhajans .. I am working on translating some of her beautiful poetry. I came across this story. Apparently Meerabai in the 14 th century wanted to join the gurukulam to learn more on the topic of spirituality. The saint in charge of the gurukulam then told her. ‘you are a woman, and that too a queen! how can you sit here along with these other men in the gurukulam!;.
    Meera replied ‘who is a man? who is a woman here?.. We are all one and same waiting to merge with divine which is all our ultimate goal. That saint was appalled and accepted her as his student. I was surprised to read this story that happened in 14 th century. what a profound thought! Looking forward for your next post.


    • Kavitha
      May 3, 2018 @ 9:23 am

      Hi Varalakshmi,
      Thank you for this thoughtful reflection. Indeed, nobody else is responsible for our mistaken identity that is the root cause of suffering. Ultimately, we can never blame anyone, and taking complete responsibility for our own state of mind and of the mistaken identity is a sign of radical maturity.

      When it comes to it, however, we innocently believe everything that we are told about ourselves – who we are, who we should be, what we can do, what we cannot do and so on. These beliefs come to form our identity, the covering or masking of who we really are, which is genderless, attributeless Sat-Chit-Ananda. To know this, we need to strip away the layers of beliefs we have accumulated, which is the crux of the spiritual journey.

      It’s funny you mention Meera Bai. Originally, I had written about her and Akka Mahadevi as examples of women who forged pathways in spirituality. They were both extraordinary! In modern times, Anandamayi Ma comes to mind. And there are other examples of course of great women gurus and teachers. Perhaps I’ll include their stories in this series.

      Much love. <3


  5. Pooja
    June 25, 2018 @ 4:01 am

    I can very well relate to this article. Observing society from broad n far telescope and then conveying the “gender identity matrix” in such a simple manner. I also felt that each headline was just touched on the surface. You must write an elaborated form of each of the headline. Also write about any remedies to overcome these gender roles.


    • Kavitha
      July 6, 2018 @ 1:26 am

      Thank you Pooja, for your lovely comments. Yes, I will elaborate in future posts!


  6. Santa Nandi
    February 10, 2019 @ 10:11 pm

    Hi Kavitha. I’m Shanta. Like you I’m also a MD, a Gastroenterologist. I stumbled upon this site by chance while I was searching a topic. It seems that you and I may’ve had similar life experiences in some way because what you write just reflects my own feelings. It’s pretty amazing to read what another person writes and to know for sure that I’ve lived and felt it on my own journey,


    • Kavitha
      February 14, 2019 @ 1:30 am

      Hi Santa, so lovely to meet you here. And how lovely to be able to relate! Hope we can meet someday. Much love.


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